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What’s the Fastest Way to Recover From Narcissistic Abuse?

Jun 10, 2023

Let’s face it—narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling like a ship lost at sea, battered by emotional storms and mind games.

But here’s the thing: You are so much stronger than you realize. You have an inner resilience that can weather any storm and an unwavering spirit that can guide you towards the future you truly want.

Now, I won’t sugarcoat it—the road to recovery may not be easy, but it is absolutely worth it. It’s a journey of self-discovery, healing, and rewriting your story with empowerment and authenticity. And that’s exactly what we’re here to help you with.

In this blog post, I'll walk you through four powerful steps that will accelerate your recovery process.

From cutting ties with the toxic influences to assembling your very own support squad, from embracing self-care like a pro to rewriting your story and reclaiming your power—each step is designed to empower you and propel you forward on your path to healing.

Step one: Cut those ties like a boss.

That means going no contact with your narcissistic ex or toxic individual if at all possible. It's not the right decision for everyone, but no contact can give you the space you need to heal.

So if you can, block ‘em on social media, change your phone number if you have to, and make it crystal clear that you’re done with their mind games. Trust me, this is where the real healing begins.

Establish boundaries and prioritize yourself. 

Picture this: You’re the director of your own life, and you can recast the roles. The narcissistic ex or toxic individual? Well, they’re about to get their walking papers. Block them on social media, delete their number from your contacts, and create a clean break. Leave no room for their mind games and manipulation.

Now, I know what you might be thinking. “But what if they try to worm their way back into my life?” This is where you channel your inner badass and stay firm in your resolve. Set those boundaries like a boss and make it crystal clear that their toxic presence is no longer welcome in your world. You deserve better than their games and emotional roller coasters.

Of course, cutting ties goes beyond just the physical separation. It’s also about reclaiming your mental and emotional space. Consider how the narcissistic abuser has damaged your life and sense of self. Recognize the manipulation tactics they used to keep you under their control. By understanding their game, you gain the power to break free from its grip.

But wait, there’s more...

Surround yourself with reminders of your strength and worth.

Create a positive space that reminds you of your worth beyond narcissistic abuse.

Now, I won’t sugarcoat it—cutting ties can be tough. It may feel like ripping off a Band-Aid or navigating a minefield of mixed emotions. That’s why you'll really want to to lean on your support squad during this process.

Cut the ties that bind you to the toxicity of narcissistic abuse.

Grab those scissors and start snipping away.  Embrace your power, set those boundaries, and create a safe space where their influence no longer holds sway. You are the master of your own destiny. And by severing those ties, you open the door to a future of self-discovery, growth, and unwavering confidence.

Step two: Build a support squad that’s top-notch.

You need your crew, your ride-or-die squad, your tribe of amazing people who will have your back when you’re feeling down. Reach out to friends, family, therapists, support groups—anyone who can lend an ear and provide some much-needed TLC.

The aftermath of narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling like a ship lost at sea. So to combat those feelings of isolation, gather your troops and surround yourself with people who care about your well-being.

Friends and family.

These are the ride-or-die friends who will have your back no matter what. They’ll lend a listening ear when you need to vent, offer a shoulder to cry on, and provide a safe space where you can truly be yourself without any judgment.

Don’t forget about the power of (non-toxic) family either. Yes, they might drive you crazy, but let’s be real—family ties run deep. Your blood relations can provide a sense of belonging and a support system that’s built on years of shared experiences. Lean on your family members who have shown empathy and understanding, and let them be a pillar of strength during your recovery journey.

Therapy and other support.

Therapists and support groups are also game-changers when it comes to bouncing back from narcissistic abuse. These professionals are trained in helping survivors navigate the tricky waters of healing. They offer guidance, tools, and coping strategies that can empower you to reclaim your sense of self and rebuild your life.  

And don't forget the digital world (as if you could!).  Online forums, social media groups, and chat platforms dedicated to narcissistic abuse recovery can be a godsend. They bring together survivors from all corners of the globe, allowing you to connect with others who have been through similar trials. The power of shared experiences can be incredibly healing, so dive into these digital havens if they resonate with you.

Ultimately, building a support squad is about surrounding yourself with people who lift you up, inspire you, and remind you of your worth. These are the people who will support you during difficult times.. They’ll be your cheerleaders, your confidants, and your safe harbor when the storm rages on.

By assembling your dream team of support, you’re forging a powerful network of love and understanding. And this will carry you through the darkest days. Remember, you are never alone in this battle. Together, we rise.

Step three: Show yourself some serious love!

Treat yourself like royalty. Engage in activities that make your soul do a happy dance - whether it’s hitting the gym, practicing yoga, or binging on your favorite guilty pleasure TV show. Embrace self-care like it’s your ultimate mission, because guess what? It is. Fill up your cup and let that love overflow into every aspect of your life.

Are you ready to unleash your inner self-care guru and treat yourself like the fabulous, deserving individual you are? After enduring the whirlwind of narcissistic abuse, it’s high time you focus on you!

Now, self-love looks different for everyone, so find what lights your fire and dive in headfirst. Perhaps it’s sweating it out at the gym, where you can release pent-up emotions and channel your energy into a Kick-Ass workout.

Or maybe it’s rolling out your yoga mat, finding your zen, and connecting with your body and breath in a way that nourishes both your physical and mental well-being.

But let’s not forget the power of indulgence. Treat yourself like royalty, my friends. Sink into a bubble bath overflowing with lavender-scented bubbles and let the stress melt away.

Pamper yourself with a spa day, where expert hands work their magic on your tired muscles and leave you feeling like a million bucks. Go ahead, splurge on that fancy meal or that decadent slice of chocolate cake—it’s all about savoring the moments and celebrating yourself.

And here’s a little secret: Self-care isn’t just about the grand gestures; it’s about finding those little pockets of bliss in your everyday life. It could be curling up with a good book, immersing yourself in a favorite hobby, or even jamming out to your favorite tunes like nobody’s watching. Embrace the activities that make your heart sing and remind you of your unique passions and interests.

Now, let’s talk about setting boundaries. It’s up to you to create sacred spaces and moments just for yourself. This means saying “no” when you need to, without feeling guilty or obligated. It means carving out time in your schedule that is solely dedicated to nurturing your own well-being. You are not selfish for taking care of yourself—you are a beautiful, radiant soul deserving of love and care.

And don’t forget to take care of your physical health, too. Fuel your body with nutritious food that energizes and nourishes you from the inside out. Get enough sleep to recharge your batteries and awaken each day with a fresh sense of vitality. Hydrate, move your body, and listen to its cues. Your physical health is an integral part of your overall well-being.

So, show yourself some love like it’s your full-time job. Embrace the activities that bring you joy, make you feel alive, and remind you of your incredible worth. Pamper yourself, set those boundaries, and savor the simple pleasures of life. You are your own greatest ally, and by showering yourself with love and care, you’re igniting a radiant flame that will light up your path to recovery.

Step four: Rewrite your story, baby!

Let’s ditch that victim mindset and take control of your narrative. This is your opportunity to rediscover who you truly are—flaws, quirks, and all. Pour your heart out in a journal, set goals that make your heart race with excitement, and focus on personal growth. You’re not defined by the abuse you endured; you’re defined by the strength you have to overcome it.

Take back the pen and craft a narrative that reflects the resilient, authentic person you are. Narcissistic abuse may have left its mark, but it doesn’t define you. This is your opportunity to rediscover your true self, embrace personal growth, and create a future that aligns with your deepest desires.

First things first, grab a journal and pour your heart out. Write out your thoughts, your feelings, and your experiences. Unleash any bottled up emotions and let the ink flow freely.

As you reflect on your journey, always be gentle with yourself. Acknowledge that the abuse you endured does not define you. The strength, resilience, and unwavering spirit that allowed you to survive and thrive defines you. Embrace your flaws, quirks, and imperfections, for they are part of what makes you beautifully human.

Now, let’s talk about setting goals that set your soul on fire. This is your chance to dream big! What do you want to achieve? What passions have you buried beneath the weight of the abuse? Dust off those dreams, breathe life into them, and set achievable milestones that will lead you closer to your aspirations.

But please understand, personal growth is not a linear path. There will be ups and downs, detours and roadblocks. Embrace the setbacks as opportunities for learning and self-discovery. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who believe in your potential and lift you up when doubt creeps in. Look for a mentor, therapist, or narcissistic abuse coach who can guide you on your journey of personal growth and provide valuable insights along the way.

Now, let’s talk about your inner dialogue. It’s time to silence that negative self-talk and replace it with empowering affirmations. Speak to yourself with kindness, compassion, and love. Celebrate your victories, no matter how small, and acknowledge the progress you’re making. Remind yourself daily that you are deserving of happiness, love, and success.

And as you rewrite your story, remember that you hold the pen. Take ownership of your life and make choices that align with your authentic self. Set boundaries to protect your well-being and surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Release toxic relationships and embrace those that nurture your growth and happiness.

Above all, be patient with yourself. Healing takes time, and your journey is unique to you. Embrace the process, the highs, the lows, and everything between. Trust in your own resilience and know that you can create a future that surpasses even your wildest dreams.

And finally, be patient with yourself. Healing takes time, and there will be days when it feels like you've taken two steps forward and one step back. In those moments, just know that you're headed in the right direction.

Escaping the clutches of narcissistic abuse is no walk in the park. Cut ties (if you can), build a killer support system, practice self-love, and embrace patience, and start living your best life. If you only take away one thing from this, let it be this: the journey to recovery starts with that first step towards freedom.

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